Don’t Involve Other People’s Ego’s
Mishlei Chapter 11 Verse 12
יב בָּז-לְרֵעֵהוּ חֲסַר-לֵב; וְאִישׁ תְּבוּנוֹת יַחֲרִישׁ.
Someone who scorns others lacks understanding of the fact that when you scorn someone (expressing contempt to the person), you are attacking his ego. From then on, your relationship with the person will be defined by your “battle of egos” even in matters which should be treated objectively. The person of understanding, will be silent in order to avoid “activating” the other person’s ego and will thus be able to interact with the person in a way that is focused on the objective goal of the interaction, instead of both people trying to assert their own ego’s.
here is an alternate summary
The “man of understanding” is someone who apprehends the underlying principles of causality in a given situation. When it comes to interpersonal relationships, the man of understanding will refrain from expressing scorn. He understands the capacity for scorn to transform an otherwise neutral matter into a battlefield for a power struggle between egos. This shift from practicality to competition will open the gates to a number of unwanted consequences – all of which could have been prevented by merely keeping silent.
יב בָּז-לְרֵעֵהוּ חֲסַר-לֵב; וְאִישׁ תְּבוּנוֹת יַחֲרִישׁ.
Someone who scorns others lacks understanding of the fact that when you scorn someone (expressing contempt to the person), you are attacking his ego. From then on, your relationship with the person will be defined by your “battle of egos” even in matters which should be treated objectively. The person of understanding, will be silent in order to avoid “activating” the other person’s ego and will thus be able to interact with the person in a way that is focused on the objective goal of the interaction, instead of both people trying to assert their own ego’s.
here is an alternate summary
The “man of understanding” is someone who apprehends the underlying principles of causality in a given situation. When it comes to interpersonal relationships, the man of understanding will refrain from expressing scorn. He understands the capacity for scorn to transform an otherwise neutral matter into a battlefield for a power struggle between egos. This shift from practicality to competition will open the gates to a number of unwanted consequences – all of which could have been prevented by merely keeping silent.
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